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STUMBLING ON CHANGE

We always tend to think of life in diverse ways as
we symbolize it with both beauties and hardships,
yet no one would exclude the element of change
in any timeline. Positive or negative, a change must
happen occasionally, which could either excite us for
the next step or scare us. Why would someone fear
a change even if it is a good one and then stumble
upon negative thoughts?
What are Those Changes?
Fear of change can include any change. Some
small changes in habits, skills, or personality are
usually hard on us especially when our identities
are involved. Major changes are harsh regardless of
their outcomes, such as getting a new job or losing
a loved one. In universities, we can see freshmen
students both enthusiastic and anxious about this
new chapter in their lives, as if it is a command to get
worried, and surely there are root causes for this.
The Usual Causes
Different causes lead to such avoidance despite
the recognition of inevitable changes. Since what is
current is held dearly, a positive change could trigger
the common fear of the “unknown”, where we think
something will go wrong due to being inexperienced
or even cynical towards what the world has. These
thoughts could have been deeply implemented by
how parents give a dangerous view of life to their
children or even force a failed attempt to change
that will whisper “never again” everytime we want
to try again. When these, or other environmental
causes, come in the path, it becomes easier to cling
to the constants we feel secure with.
When it comes to a negative change, on the other
hand, the painful and mysterious part has already
happened without a choice. Therefore, we need to
learn how to move on and cope with it. The process
of accepting could include denial, anger, depression,
and bargaining. Being afraid of admitting this coping
mechanism only makes it harder to achieve closure.

To conclude, change always happens, so we can’t
allow our frightening thoughts to paralyze us from
growth despite the causes. We eventually learn to
adapt and find new approaches to build a positive,
or less daunting, outcome.

Written by Syrin Alabrach
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